Monday, November 15, 2010

It's time to make a change!



I’m a 28 year old good Punjabi girl from London. I’ve spent the best part of my twenty something years helping friends, family, the neighbour,  and random aunties from down the street that need me to show them how to use their computer. I'm usually tending to visits from the extended family from motherland that have decided on a surprise visit to our house and I find myself making cups of tea for 20 people at a time throughout the day on an average Sunday,  plus the constant flow of visits from our family (Indian family networks are big, well mine is!). It’s always been a busy household, so basically anyone that needed help or wanted me to do something for them…. I was that girl!  This even includes throwing myself into my work, I couldn't get away from that either…but what can I say - I want to make people happy… I can’t say no! 

Earlier this year I took a step back to think - where is my life going?’ I’ve always happily put others in front of myself, as I wasn’t important and it would mean I have less time to think about myself and what I needed. I seem to have all the time in the world to run around for others….but what about me? Enough is enough, time to get selfish! (just a little!)

With the help of cousin J this summer I decided to finally do something for myself and focus on what I want. Not keep using my family and friends to keep me busy and not focus on what I should be doing for myself. For instance my health, exploring the world, and finding love! Why couldn’t I manage to do all of it successfully together? I managed to do bits of it successfully, but only one at time. Don’t get me wrong,  I still had lots of fun though, and great memories from my teens & twenties....

I have been blessed with great friends and family, but I’ve never known when to draw the line and do what’s right for me.. I guess its in my nature, I've always been the bubbly, happy and helpful Rani,  that won’t change, but I can at least make the most of this year overseas to spread my wings and put things back in balance!   As a very dear friend said to me one day ‘Rani, you don’t want to be the only one left of the dance floor’. Cheesy as it seems, this really stuck a cord with me! So thank you N! xx

So this is where my journey beings!

Thanks for reading!

MahaRani x

6 comments:

  1. Welcome to canada...the journey is just beginning...

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  2. Ahh love it MahaRani!

    If I had known that old cliché of “being the only one left dancing” was the line that would have made things click for you I would have dusted it off and used it years ago!!!

    Looking forward to your blogs on all the exciting changes Canada brings your way :o)

    Cheerio from a cold N in a freezing London brrr it’s so cold xxx

    P.s. You have also me and Mrs K to thank for your name as we crowned you Maharani some years ago lol!!!

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  3. Yes MahaRani comes from my loved ones! Thanks ladies.. N, Mrs K and MB! xx

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  4. Very interesting way for big bro to keep an eye on you (pun fully intended). Another clarification is required, I (DB) said you should be more selfish before anyone !

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  5. Indeed you did DB!! THANK YOU! xx

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  6. Your made for the blogging sphere Miss Mandy or should I say MahaRani !!! Go Girl - rock as only you can xx

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